Ok so this has been weighing heavily on my heart for a long time now that I'm older so here goes :-/ . I think I am the biggest grudge holder known on this green and blue Earth. Ever since I was younger I've always been the type of person to hold a serious grudge against any and every person who has seriously wronged me. In my younger days I didn't care but now that I'm older I feel like this should be something that I can control or get rid of and honestly I can't.To this very day I still have some serious grudges that I am carrying around with me and honestly I don't think I can ever look at those people in a positive light ever again. SO, my question to you: How do you control or get over your grudges? This is my first step in creating a new me. I know I have to let go of the past and those issues but to tell you the truth I just don't know how. Thanks and I can't wait to see your replies!
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First of all, I must say I am SOOOOOOOOO PROUD of you line sister, like seriously. What you are doing is amazing and takes alot of courage. Identifying areas for improvement in yourself and taking steps to change positively is causing our Father to smile right now. :)
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Ok, now to the bidness! What I do in terms of grudges. I learned to FORGIVE. If you think about it, holding on to grudges hurt you more than the person you are holding the grudge against. You are the one angry, upset and feeling some kind of ways. Also, you may not realize it but, if you're unforgiving, you bring that anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience. Your life becomes so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present. You will become depressed or anxious. I truly believe the best type of revenge is to Forgive, Move On and Be Happy. If God can forgive us for all the shiggidy we be doing down here on His green Earth, why cant we forgive each other? IJS
Forgiveness is not easy. Let me repeat that Forgiveness is NOT easy. And honestly, it has nothing to do with the person you are forgiving it has EVERYTHING to do with YOU. Forgiveness is a commitment, let me repeat that Forgiveness is a commitment. "Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. A way to begin is by recognizing the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time. Then reflect on the facts of the situation, how you've reacted, and how this combination has affected your life, health and well-being. When you're ready, actively choose to forgive the person who's offended you. Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life. As you let go of grudges, you'll no longer define your life by how you've been hurt. You may even find compassion and understanding."
I love you and wish you nothing but love and success on this journey.
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Jenn I love you so much! The one thing I can always count on is my line sisters! I have heard this in so many different ways but you know me I'm stubborn! I figured that if I keep asking someone would give me the answer I really want, which I know is the wrong one. I so love the way you put it and since I've outwardly put it out there that I;m trying to change I guess I have to do it. :-) I have evaluated the situation and I can admit that I had some pretty terrible actions myself, but I could never get over the fact that I ended up being the only one hurt in the situations. Now that I look back at them NOBODY really cared that I was mad or that I didn't talk to them anymore and I was always the only one with the headache from having the angry face all day. LOL I do have another question though. Do I have to tell those people that I forgive them to truly move on? Because THAT will be a hard thing to do. Thanks JENN! :-)
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